Once, while he was over, the dude from the States made a surprise visit and rang the door bell. I guess he decided to make a trip up to Canada un-announced.
Local BF confronted mom about the other dude and she promised that she will stop talking to him.
One day mom was sick. Local BF called her to see if she was ok and if she needed anything. She told him she was ok, not to worry about her, and hung up. The next day, they get into an argument and she tells him she likes to talk to the other guy because he cares about her.... because when she was sick the other day, he asked how she was doing and if she was ok. [*rolls eyes* I don't exactly see how that is any different from what her local BF did. But I guess to her, there is a difference].
Local BF is mom's little bitch. She gets him to do all her errands here and there. He even takes care of paying her bills for her (not pay out of his own pocket, but HELP her pay), including her phone bill. Local BF sees that she is still talking to the American dude. In fact, she gets on the phone with him not too long after she kicks him [local BF] out of the house and tells him to go sleep at home.
Local BF gets all choked and goes for a drive around town. Mom couldn't get ahold her her American dude, so she decided to cause drama. Mom gets mad at local BF because he did not go home. In fact, she tells him that she went over to his place to see if he was there or not (she didn't. she lied about that). But, why would she get choked about where he is when she was the one that kicked him out of her place so she could talk on the phone with the American dude?
Now local BF has had enough of this shit, and decides to call the American dude. I dunno what he said to him, but he tells me mom found out, and they broke up. He calls me here and there all depressed and shit, and some of the things he says makes me just bitch slap him across the face. He tells me he is sad, and that he finally sees that she had just been using him all this time.
I asked him many of times why he loves her, and he tells me it is because she makes him happy. That, when he makes her happy, that, makes him happy.
I asked him "when was the last time he did something to make her happy?", and he said, "Today... everyday"
I turned the question around and asked him when was the last time she did something to make him happy... He had to think about it for a few minutes until he answered back with "never".
I was trying to help him understand that the whole relationship was just fucked, and that he really doesn't know what the hell he wanted. He tells me he wants to be with her, and that she makes him happy, but cannot tell me what she does, or has does specifically in the past that has made him happy.
So... they are broken up. She has told me to not talk to local BF anymore.. and blah blah blah..
TODAY... He comes over !!... out of no where, they are at it again like nothing ever happened.
That poisonous relationship, the same one he said he finally recognized he was in, is the same one he willingly decided to enter again.
Mom fucks up and fucks around with another dude, causes local BF all this shit, uses and abuses him, plays all these fucked up mind games with him, and he happily gets back into the relationship with her again.....
FUCK me if I understand this shit.
